Comments on: Why is high self-esteem so important to success? http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/ Self Esteem Creates Success Wed, 01 Feb 2012 11:54:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Yvonne http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-8015 Yvonne Mon, 26 Sep 2011 13:17:51 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-8015 Very interesting, been working for myself for three years! and things are slipping away, that I thought were in place. But don't feel the deservingness problem is on the surface, I don't but my self down ect, but I was brought up to not ask for anything, and beleive tahts where I will start to make that changes. Thank you this has helped Yvonne Very interesting, been working for myself for three years! and things are slipping away, that I thought were in place.
But don’t feel the deservingness problem is on the surface, I don’t but my self down ect, but I was brought up to not ask for anything, and beleive tahts where I will start to make that changes.
Thank you this has helped
Yvonne

]]> By: Mark http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-7949 Mark Thu, 01 Sep 2011 03:44:55 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-7949 Thank you for your reply, Crystal. I must say, self esteem has been one of the two tricky subjects for me, and your comments have prompted me to go yet a little deeper into it. Yes, it is very important. And yes, please, send me a link once it's live. Thank you. Warm regards, Mark. Thank you for your reply, Crystal. I must say, self esteem has been one of the two tricky subjects for me, and your comments have prompted me to go yet a little deeper into it. Yes, it is very important. And yes, please, send me a link once it’s live. Thank you. Warm regards, Mark.

]]> By: Crystal http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-7942 Crystal Tue, 30 Aug 2011 21:11:02 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-7942 Thanks for the feedback, Mark. The process of changing negative thoughts to positive involves a couple of steps. First is becoming aware of them. Second is countering them, working through why they're wrong (or not completely right) so they're undermined in your own head, and then you can start coming up with the positive thoughts to replace them. So you're right, it's not as easy as shouting 'Alakazam' and they go away. It's also sometimes easier for some people to live with the status quo than to work on changing it - there's a lot of resistance to change we're taught as we grow up that can also get in the way. Self esteem is only one aspect of our self-concept, and yes there are lots of other areas where it can be negative, and affect overall happiness, independent of self-esteem. You're absolutely right, they aren't the same thing. My own experience, though, is that esteem is the single most common issue for the majority of people. After all, it's totally undermined by several aspects of our everyday life and culture. That's why I focus on it, not purely because of happiness but because it's so powerful in enabling people to move forward once it's fixed. I'm also currently working on a rewrite of my previous free course, I'll send you a link once that's live if you like. I'd be happy to get your feedback. Best of luck with the video blog, I'll watch out for it. Thanks for the feedback, Mark.
The process of changing negative thoughts to positive involves a couple of steps. First is becoming aware of them. Second is countering them, working through why they’re wrong (or not completely right) so they’re undermined in your own head, and then you can start coming up with the positive thoughts to replace them. So you’re right, it’s not as easy as shouting ‘Alakazam’ and they go away. It’s also sometimes easier for some people to live with the status quo than to work on changing it – there’s a lot of resistance to change we’re taught as we grow up that can also get in the way.
Self esteem is only one aspect of our self-concept, and yes there are lots of other areas where it can be negative, and affect overall happiness, independent of self-esteem. You’re absolutely right, they aren’t the same thing. My own experience, though, is that esteem is the single most common issue for the majority of people. After all, it’s totally undermined by several aspects of our everyday life and culture. That’s why I focus on it, not purely because of happiness but because it’s so powerful in enabling people to move forward once it’s fixed. I’m also currently working on a rewrite of my previous free course, I’ll send you a link once that’s live if you like. I’d be happy to get your feedback.
Best of luck with the video blog, I’ll watch out for it.

]]> By: Mark http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-7941 Mark Mon, 29 Aug 2011 13:19:42 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-7941 Hi, you have a fresh voice and fresh ideas. Good stuff. Well written. I particularly like your articles about self esteem and 'Why Life Sucks . . ' I'm writing to say that although I appreciate your articles (and will be looking at them again), I felt the need to mention 1. The trouble with stopping one's negative thoughts and replacing them with positive thoughts is that I'm not sure it works. Did it really work with you? I get the feeling that the more a person tries to tell themselves a positive thought, the more a voice inside them tells them it's wrong. Therefore, positive affirmations are counter-productive. However, if it did work for you I'm curious why other people (like myself) have the opposite effect, and also, why it hasn't caught on. After all, if it really did work, we would all simply apply it and feel wonderful, would we not? So what am I missing? 2. Secondly, in my video blog (which won't open until October - I'm still writing the scripts), I will be casting doubt over the commonly held view that a high self esteem increases our core happiness. I suspect it might simply be an emotional disability. A physical disability, like a missing leg, affects a person's ability to run etc. but will not (except initially) affect a person's core happiness. In the same way, a low self esteem will affect a person's ability to succeed in many aspects of their life, but will not affect their core happiness. (I don't equate success with happiness either.) There are many people who have a high self esteem, but aren't that happy, and there are many people who have a low self esteem, but who are happy, but their low self esteem is not evident because they are happy. I'm telling you this because you write an impressive blog, and because I'd like your thoughts on both points, if you have time. Warm regards. Mark. Hi, you have a fresh voice and fresh ideas. Good stuff. Well written. I particularly like your articles about self esteem and ‘Why Life Sucks . . ‘ I’m writing to say that although I appreciate your articles (and will be looking at them again), I felt the need to mention 1. The trouble with stopping one’s negative thoughts and replacing them with positive thoughts is that I’m not sure it works. Did it really work with you? I get the feeling that the more a person tries to tell themselves a positive thought, the more a voice inside them tells them it’s wrong. Therefore, positive affirmations are counter-productive. However, if it did work for you I’m curious why other people (like myself) have the opposite effect, and also, why it hasn’t caught on. After all, if it really did work, we would all simply apply it and feel wonderful, would we not? So what am I missing?
2. Secondly, in my video blog (which won’t open until October – I’m still writing the scripts), I will be casting doubt over the commonly held view that a high self esteem increases our core happiness. I suspect it might simply be an emotional disability. A physical disability, like a missing leg, affects a person’s ability to run etc. but will not (except initially) affect a person’s core happiness. In the same way, a low self esteem will affect a person’s ability to succeed in many aspects of their life, but will not affect their core happiness. (I don’t equate success with happiness either.) There are many people who have a high self esteem, but aren’t that happy, and there are many people who have a low self esteem, but who are happy, but their low self esteem is not evident because they are happy. I’m telling you this because you write an impressive blog, and because I’d like your thoughts on both points, if you have time.
Warm regards. Mark.

]]> By: Francisco Cavallero http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-7933 Francisco Cavallero Thu, 25 Aug 2011 20:51:36 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-7933 This is a wonderfully written article. You must have done a lot of research in this area. You have made this topic easy to read, interesting and easy to understand. This is a wonderfully written article. You must have done a lot of research in this area. You have made this topic easy to read, interesting and easy to understand.

]]> By: Priscila http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-6109 Priscila Wed, 09 Feb 2011 19:01:32 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-6109 heyheyheyyyyyyyy heyheyheyyyyyyyy

]]> By: k c http://crystalsquest.com/why-is-high-self-esteem-so-important-to-success/comment-page-1/#comment-5921 k c Tue, 16 Nov 2010 17:25:37 +0000 http://crystalsquest.com/?p=1975#comment-5921 What is self esteem? Loving yourself just the way you are. We are already lovable. We need to be nurtured, loved and have structure. You get to provide it for yourself. The hidden benefit is that you get exactly what you want and need. No need to rely on someone else reading your mind or disappointing you because YOU know exactly what you want already. Thanks for sharing this!! <a href="http://www.selfesteemaffirmations.com/self-esteem-affirmations/high-self-esteem-leads-to-truly-living-your-life" rel="nofollow">Self Esteem Affirmation</a> What is self esteem? Loving yourself just the way you are.
We are already lovable. We need to be nurtured, loved and have structure. You get to provide it for yourself. The hidden benefit is that you get exactly what you want and need. No need to rely on someone else reading your mind or disappointing you because YOU know exactly what you want already.

Thanks for sharing this!!
Self Esteem Affirmation

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