How to Avoid Ageing

by Crystal on November 5, 2009

iStock_000007651769XSmall At birth we’re dependent, unable to do for ourselves what we need others to help us to do.

As we grow older, we move into a society where we pretend that’s not the case anymore.  The truth is, though, we’re heavily dependent on others – to supply our food, our jobs, our houses, just about everything except what we specialise in ourselves.

As we age, even that pretence is stripped away.  We can no longer imagine ourselves living without the help of others.  Age frightens most of us.  That thought of losing even the imitation independence we think we have, and once again needing others to help us accomplish the simplest things, is something many will do almost anything to avoid.  Entire multi-billion dollar industries are built up around it.

The new paradigm, though, tells us that we draw to ourselves that which we fear most.  The harder you try to defeat ageing, the harder it’s likely to hit you.

I’ve noticed one group, though, that seem to totally ignore any thoughts of ageing.  They’re not worried about what is to come, simply because they’re so busy having fun in the here and now.  Look around you.  Have you ever noticed that people that love what they do don’t seem to age the same way as the rest of us?  I first noticed it with Marcia Hines (doesn’t she still look amazing?) and I wondered if it had something to do with singing.  Singers especially seem to keep that aura of youth around them.  But looking further, it isn’t just them.  It’s anybody who lives their lives so that they’re actually LIVING in the here and now, and more so, expressing their joy of life through what they do.

Fears can’t co-exist with that kind of life.  Fear is based on thoughts of what might happen – the future.  If you’re immersed in the Now then fear can’t touch you.

One of the chapters I’ve just finished in the Happy Pocket manual (from WBR 2.0) talks about having a sense of play about life.  People who have that young at heart attitude just seem to keep that vibrancy far longer than the people who resign themselves to ‘the grind’.

Given there are so many high-profile examples of how it’s possible to live the life you love, why do we convince ourselves that feeling oppressed and powerless is the only way to live?  Where do we start giving up the dreams that we can do or be anything we want to be, and instead settle for whatever we think we can get – and even worse, start shrinking that definition so we define ourselves and less and less worthwhile, as our dreams die off slowly from the starvation that lack of belief does to them?

I wonder if the ageing process is life’s way of forcing us back to the honesty of that childhood we leave behind…

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