7 Ways Your Self Esteem is Holding You Back

by Crystal on April 8, 2009

istock_000008515543xsmallYour Self Esteem level is a powerful predictor of your success.  Here’s 7 ways it WILL be impacting on you…

  1. Your income. You get the income you believe you’re worth, NOT the income you deserve.
  2. Your confidence. It’s a critical ingredient in having the courage to go for things just out of reach, stretch yourself, and grow
  3. Your relationships. Especially for women, a gap between how your partner sees you and how you see yourself can lead to breakups
  4. Your social life. Having a good self esteem means you won’t wait for others to organise events, you’ll arrange some yourself.
  5. Your friendships. Always waiting for your friends to lead, or being unwilling to accept their praise of you, makes it hard to be around you.
  6. Your health. If you don’t believe in yourself, you’re unlikely to take care of yourself as well as more positively oriented people.
  7. Your network. The bigger your self esteem, the bigger this is likely to grow.  You have to be willing to put yourself forward.

What do you think: how else does the level of your self esteem make a difference to your life?  Share your thoughts in the comments, please.

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IvánPérez June 5, 2009 at 3:03 pm

What a brief kick ass post. I liked it.

I think it also has influence on the decisions you take because we usually don’t take them based on logic.


Maksudov May 15, 2009 at 10:44 pm

Я больше 3х лет вплотную обеспокоен этим вопросом и думаю ваши доводы слишком необоснованными

Google Translate: I was 3 years old is concerned about this issue closely, and I think your arguments are too unreasonable


Sean Patrick Simpson April 9, 2009 at 10:16 pm

Great post Crystal! 🙂

I’d also touch upon one other grouping, which is technically a subset of relationships or friendships, and that is your mentorships!

Your self worth/esteem is going to determine the types of mentors you have in your life! Or even if you HAVE any! Are you WORTH having incredible people in your life? Is your self worth high enough that you could be flying under the Wings of Eagles?

I can tell you that one of the key reasons I’m able to play in the arena with people from the Secret and members of the Transformational Leadership Council is largely due to the fact taht I have a high self worth. I view myself as someone that they would want in their circle of friends. That, combined with inspired action, has lead me to having these incredible mentors as my family, which will ultimately lead to a lot of my largest dreams coming to fruition.

So I ask, is your self worth great enough that you can spread your wings and fly with the eagles?

–Sean Patrick Simpson
**The Mindset Apprentice**
Twitter @vpsean


pm April 8, 2009 at 8:11 pm

Taking care of our health helps us take care of the people around us as well. Feeling healthy does help esteem. Thanks for the tips.


Crystal April 9, 2009 at 10:26 am

You’re absolutely right, thanks for the reminder.
I remember when I used to put everyone else first, and then got to the point where I just had nothing left to give. That’s when it clicked for me that I did have to take care of me, and even put myself first, if I wanted to have anything to give anyone else.


ed April 8, 2009 at 8:06 pm

Self esteem does give life a better perspective. When you feel good about yourself, you enjoy life more and find it easier to boost up others too.


Crystal April 9, 2009 at 10:26 am

Absolutely! Even just walking around with a big smile has such an amazing effect on yourself and the people around you, doesn’t it?


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